I know it has been a while since the last update. I guess having to share a computer with three other persons in the house is no easy thing to do. Especially when the two little people are most interested in it while you’re at it! Therefore, to reduce tension so that everybody could live happily ever after; I choose to only use the computer if I have something important to do or when the two little people are not around (asleep).
The little boy is now three; that means triple energy, intelligence, love and sometimes…mischief! So does the little sister who is approximately 15 months now. Handzalah is a funny talkative kid but we’ve found out recently that Fidaa’ is even funnier at a younger age. I can’t believe how she could make funny faces, movements and so on and be a natural clown without a red nose and heavy make up all day long! What Handzalah will do in response to that then is imitating her silly acts and noises, trying to join in the fun.
Or is it jealousy? Handzalah loves copying her sister now. Seems as if he feels that doing so will gain him the attention she is getting (at that particular moment). Guess kids just love the attention so much when someone else’s having it. Be it another sibling, mummy’s friend or even husband! Whenever my husband and I have a long conversation about anything, that will be the time when our kids will need everything they could think of in this world. That’ll be the time when they’ll voluntarily ask for a nappy change, feel thirsty or hungry or even want to listen to a story. If the conversation seems like too fun, what these little people will do is…they’ll jump, sit or stand between us, physically (with great effort) trying to ‘remove’ the attention you’re getting from your partner. And usually, Ummi (me; my mom in Arabic) will be the one who can’t be talking to Abi (my hubby; my dad in Arabic) too long. It’s like they’re saying: “Ummi you’re mine, and mine ONLY! And Abi, time’s up ok?”. But the little boy now has learnt some manners, and have more patience to wait for ‘his turn’.
I remembered Handzalah having the same way of seeking attention with Fidaa’ now when he was much much younger. When they want us to pick them up, they will of course cry but if you simply try to comfort them from a bit of a distance (so that you won’t have to pick them up), they’ll cry and walk and suddenly, manja-ly fall! They do that every time we had ‘the crying test’, when there’s no reason to cry and they start crying we’ll wait for a while for them to come and see if the same drama happens and of course…the best actor and actress awards go to…MY KIDS!
Kids grow so fast and as time flies, I think I’ve also learnt to do many things and one of them is keeping my little boy ‘away’ from the PC in a more sensible manner now. A total ban won’t be good for something that has goodness in it but assuring he doesn’t spend all his time or most of his time just watching a flat screen is necessary. In exchange, he’ll just need simple but fun things to do and Ummi to accompany him too. I guess there’s a bit of addiction with all these techie accessories but it’ll be for a while InshaALlah. Though he still have a lot of interests in those things, I feel that given time and space, he actually prefers physical activities like playing football and running. He seems to love artwork too, always asking us to help him draw his ‘Ultraman’ (his current favourite character) or a computer. And of course, that computer must have a screen, keyboard and mouse! He loves scribbling on my little whiteboard with his sister and take every single marker I have of different colours to use. At the end of the day when it’s my turn to use those things for class, I’ll be writing on the whiteboard filled with patterns on its wooden frame and markers with a mixture of colours. It’s no longer blue or green, it’s like blue with a touch of red, and black green…or whatever.
Fidaa’ won’t only use the whiteboard but have this habit of drawing on her palm and arm! Worse, if you’re not fast enough to avoid the aftermath you’ll find marks of ink anywhere on her face and body, or if they’re doing group work you might find other abstract drawings around your household! I had a great laugh watching one of Joeprah’s video recently of her little gal who also did the same creative activity and turn out she even drew something on her belly! It’s funny enough to learn that kids are egocentric but their acts and imagination sometimes are without boundaries. I guess that’s why my parents never had the walls at home painted until most of us grew up ;).
hope you’ll be able to write more often after this hehe..